When working with addicts and their families there is one constant that I see more often than anything else. And that is misconceptions of what boundaries actually are. People are mixing up boundaries with expectations, threats, and ultimatums. If you're setting a boundary with a loved one you need to understand that the loved one has little to do with the task, if anything at all. The work, sacrifice, and follow through are all jobs you're assigning to yourself. You're basic